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don’t it always seem to go…

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Woke with a song worm this morning. Played several different versions of it while feeding catlips and making coffee; ending with the Queen herself, of course…so often my inspiration. Life changed forever that summer back in 1970. My family and I were traveling on our Chris Craft, as we did much of the summer, and moored in a tiny fishing village in Georgian Bay. The general store had the album displayed, and I bought it for the drawing on the cover, never having heard of the Canadian singer. We’d plug in my portable turntable out on the deck and dance and sing along, until we wore that vinyl scratchy.

My childhood home was always filled with music, often around the clock, until I would burrow my head under the pillow and wish it would stop. Midnight margaritas were real in our house. Your questions were often answered in song lyrics. At the drop of a hat all seven of us (Mom, Dad, me and my 4 siblings) would burst into song in public restaurants and shops with any inspiring prompt. The world was our oyster, and constant muse. There really were no ordinary days. They were all extraordinary. Magical and full of spontaneous adventure, fun, friends, my adoring grandparents, our horses and dogs and cats and bunny rabbits and all kinds of birds and fish…our every whim pretty much addressed instantly.

For the most part I had absolutely no clue what the world – or real life – was like. That’s why the horrific events of the rest of the world were so devastating to me. The war in Vietnam. The riots in the streets of Detroit. The assassination of fine men. I was shocked by human cruelty. And utterly unprepared to face the reality of my family’s personal dysfunction – let alone the country’s. I never will understand it fully in my lifetime. When you have so very much in life, why would anything but wonder and generosity occur?

The Perpetual Arranger

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“…you are the perpetual arranger,” said a childhood friend one day many years ago. It is true that I am constantly changing the furniture layout, the menagerie of items, the plants indoors and out, the accoutrement of life. C’mon – you do it, too, whether you are conscious of it or not. We are the curators of our own space. It is a thankless struggle when we are raising children, but it is innate. Now in my later years it is an act of pure delight. Don’t put that there! That goes over here…see?!

My darling mother used to say, “I’m just rearranging the deck chairs on the Titanic.” How many times I’d been astonished and befuddled by how she managed a big house full of five children (six if you count my father, who certainly qualified.) We would laugh, but I always had the same reply: “It matters, Mom. The arrangement of the deck chairs matter as long as we’re standing here on deck.”

A friend recently confided that her mother thinks her house is cluttered. I’ve been told that about my homes since my early 20’s. But let me tell you something about my friend’s house. The house itself is beautiful, but there is a less apparent component: I walk in and I FEEL an energy shift. She arranges her home with INTENTION. Like myself, she believes her home is her sanctuary; a living altar. I’ve already asked her if I may come film a short video for the blog after the holidays. I’d like to investigate this process with several people whose homes I admire for different reasons.

In design terms, we are maximalists. I am just as disheveled by clutter as anyone, but clutter is not useful nor attractive. And there are ways to live with the belongings you love without them becoming visual clutter. There are specific ways to do that, and we will explore those here in the coming weeks.

The internet is – pardon me – cluttered – with videos about clutter. Believe me, I’ve watched them discerningly. I’ve read the books (glad to share my favorite) and yes, clutter is a symptom of PTSD. It is both indicative of and perpetuates mental unrest. But most of the approaches I have found fall short of long term solutions; they address the symptom rather than the cause. Have we not learned better yet? We’re seeing the manifestation of this in our health care system. Yes, recognizing a problem is the beginning of finding a cure. We’ve got this.

I love my stuff. I love my home. AND, I love my health, mentally and physically. Health is a lifelong goal I will not compromise (shall we talk boundaries here yet?!) The goal is also beauty, inside and out. Health and beauty are two sides of the same coin. Beauty is a sacred affirmation to our spirit, to God, that we are thankful for the grace in our lives. We are paying attention. We are outgrowing survival mode. We are committed to life. Can I get a witness?!

But beauty is entirely personal. AND, I insist – NOT based on economics. You can live a beautiful life in a beautiful place with or without money. Stick with me and I’ll prove it. (I’ve made some pretty cool decorations out of the plastic netting the onions came in.)

What are your seven favorite things at home?

“Nothing is interesting unless it is personal.” – Billy Baldwin

Be Very Afraid…

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She’s afraid of beige…I so get that. Beige is a euphemism for mediocrity. Mediocrity scares me. It has frightened me away from writing, here and elsewhere. It has frightened me away from painting. But ya know what? Screw that…I will turn 70 in a few months. I’m tired of being afraid – of anything. I’ve lost people that I don’t know how to live without. I’ve lost beloved pets – some of my best life companions, shitloads of money, my sanity more than once…

When I began this blog many years ago I was grieving heavily. I still am. I’ve come to understand that grief is part of my everyday life, and I am so good with that. It’s a portal to an open heart and a remarkable way to live more fully.

Since you have wandered here today, please come back soon. I’m going to explore this world again and I would relish your company, and your input. I plan to write and share ideas, music, books, and most importantly, inspiration. I need more of it, and don’t we all?

“…the insidious, evil, creeping taupe…” – Alexandra Stoddard

“Do something, Susan, even if it’s wrong.” – my Mom, Doris