It’s just after 11 a.m. I’m beginning my second morning. It starts around ten or eleven, depending on how long I’ve been up. I wake most days between four and five. I have water, my chewable vitamins, and I write. First, Morning Pages according to Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way. I made that contract with myself in 1997 and I intend to honor it the rest of my days. Then, I might write on the blog here, sometimes one or two posts, and schedule them for publication. While I’m writing I make coffee and I might throw in a load of wash. Or, I might get back into bed instead of making it…have a “napitation.” That’s where I start out meditating and end up napping. By this time it’s getting to be nine or ten-ish. Later if I napped for a couple of hours. And so begins my “second morning.” My day is a success and it isn’t even noon yet!

This morning when I woke from my nap I went out and mowed the back lawn before jumping in the shower. Now it is raining – that soft, cool rain that smells of cedar and wood fire; that only comes leeside of the lake tucked among the dunes. There is nothing better than rural Michigan in the summer.

To say that I am enjoying retirement would be a gross understatement. I have never loved my life more. It has taken seventy years to find “the house of my belonging.” But I am also struggling. It is a different stress than when I was younger, married then divorced, married again and then divorced again, raising a son through all the chaos, working a job or two, keeping up a home – always far, far too busy, living a “scramble” life.

On these sumptuous mornings I am filled with gratitude. I want nothing more than to listen intently to the sparrow listing it’s recent discoveries as if the inventory is of utmost importance, the cat obliviously asleep at my side. I wouldn’t trade a moment of this for the world.

The foxgloves are dropping their purple hats just as the daisies are about to announce the certainty of summer. They aver: don’t look back. But I do look back. I am full of every day I have known so far, and I don’t want to forget a second of it. I seem to have lived a thousand lifetimes in this one. I cherish them all.

I miss my Mother terribly. She’s been gone 21 years now, stolen from me far too young by Liposarcoma, the “angry cancer,” the cancer of the soft, fatty tissue of the abdomen – though she barely weighed a hundred pounds at 5 foot 5. I never once saw her get angry in her life. Apparently she kept it hidden in her deepest recesses.

She had more reason to get angry than you or I ever will. Anger seemed to hurt her. I would watch her face contort into grief when faced with the atrocities of her life. I cannot hold a candle to her level of understanding or forgiveness, let alone her unending gratitude. Faced with the same abuse, I’d have committed murder and been writing this from a prison cell. I don’t have a fraction of her strength.

My son was her first grandchild, and she was obnoxious with the photos. She carried a “Brag Book” in her purse, and I’d introduce her to friends or coworkers saying, “This is my Mother, Doris – would you like to see the photos of her grandchild now or later?” The sun rose and set with him. Many of my happiest memories are because of her, and my son and I know we were so privileged to have had her. She was a remarkable person, and the world is undeniably a better place because she lived.

But growing up we five children teased her mercilessly. Not least of which about her singing. She taught herself to play the guitar and she practiced, usually alone in her room at night, and sung quietly. In the decades to follow she would often look at me lovingly and sing a line or two…if I could, I’d sing to you: