“Life is good if you don’t weaken,” my Mother used to say. I think about her every day…and wonder. How did she do it? She had five children to raise. At what age does a parent consciously think about the fact that, given life follows it’s natural order, they will no longer be needed? And then one day no longer exist…that their child will outlive them and become an orphan.
I don’t remember thinking about that when I was a young mother myself. In fact, I never thought about it until after I had lost my parents. I became an orphan at 60. I was one of the lucky ones, although I wish I’d had my parents longer. And appreciated them more. Some time during the last decade or so it slowly began to dawn on me…oh. My son will lose his parents and be alone in the world. He has never married, although he has had some long term partners. He’s single now. He hasn’t had children. He himself is an only child. He’s a loner, especially the past couple of years that he has been sober. That only works if you withdraw from the drinking friends, stop hanging at the bar, attending the yearly summer camping trips that all revolve around the beer.
He’s middle aged now. His body is slowing down, arthritis is affecting his mobility. I worry about how he will manage on his own. There is no obvious support system for him in his later years. I worry about my younger nieces and nephews. My siblings are all in their 60’s now. My son gets along with his younger cousins, loves them, but they are scattered by decades and distance.
Tonight as I am writing this the wildfire smoke is oppressive here in Michigan. I am sad. Beautiful wild Ontario is on fire, where I spent so much of my childhood and teenage years exploring. My son has never been. We had dramatically different childhoods. Mine seemed to stretch out forever; it sustains me still. His had smaller borders and was so much lonelier. I swam in the crystal clear water of Georgian Bay, with long black snakes and schools of curious fish and the occasional black bear. We flew to California to watch TinkerBell fly from the Disneyland castle at sunset. He flew to Florida and Disney World. Both fun, certainly…I’m just not sure his childhood was as magical.
Every generation grows to realize their world was smaller and simpler. Mine had majestic old theaters gutted of their seats, where we sat on the floor and watched the best musicians of our generation for our five dollar cover charge…Joe Cocker sang about a Girl from the North Country.
And so, home now with the day ahead free of obligation, I can sit here and review my week. Something I have yet to define has me feeling like something big just happened. Something life changing, just in the past 72 hours. And I know what started it: the book I am reading – Permission by Elissa Altman. Specifically, the chapter titled The Magic in the Mundane. It – she – has given me permission to be mundane.
“In the most mundane stories lie humanity. It is where the magic is, where the stories lurk, where the most stunning and affecting art is waiting to be made. It is where joy and sorrow and the absurd and the human are plaited together in a tight braid…forget perfectionism: the mundane reeks of imperfection, and that imperfection is what makes for beauty of a human sort.”
If you read the last few days posts you’ll know that I walked out on my job last Thursday. There wasn’t anything wrong or bad happening there. There wasn’t much happening there at all. I didn’t need to be there. It was a distraction from what I need to be doing. I need to be here. It has taken me 73 years, 5 months and 4 days to get here.
You may begin to see a theme running through all the posts of this week. Perhaps it will continue, but I am not about to predict the future – I still have the rest of my life ahead of me, after all.
In January of 2012 I participated in a 13 week group study of The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. It would prompt me to start this blog. A woman I had never met before sat across from me in the circle and commented on something I had said – or maybe written – in response to one of the exercises. She exclaimed, “Oh my gosh – you’re a writer.” For some reason I thought of that today, and what it meant to me at the time. I was shocked and somewhat confused. I didn’t believe her. Until this past Thursday. Fourteen years later. Is it too late? Apparently not. I’m still here. Or perhaps I should say, I’m here now.
Elissa Altman pulled me aside last Thursday in the bookstore, in that little back tarot-card-reading-room closet. Families of tourists scurried outside the mysterious curtain that provided no privacy for my tears. She let me know quietly that, yes, my family also taught me that perfectionism was the only way to avoid shame. And she let me know that it wasn’t working. It wasn’t keeping the shame at bay. Not the grief. Not the sorrow. “Go home,” I heard her whisper.
And so I am home now. I slept all day Friday. And all night, until the nightmares woke me. This morning, Saturday, my son asked if I had been having nightmares last night. “Why, yes. Why do you ask?” “Because you were standing outside my bedroom door early this morning calling out to me for help.” I wasn’t there physically. But my spirit was.
I used to write poetry. In high school my English teacher submitted one of my poems to a student contest with The Atlantic and it was published…I guess I could say I’m a published author. But I won’t. That same year I also won my second honorable mention in The Detroit News Scholastic Art Awards. And then I left school. A couple of college teachers acknowledged my writing, encouraged me. One invited me to skip a year. But then I left school again.
Schoolwork was too difficult to maintain with a full time job and a baby and a household to run. And an abusive husband who was closer to my abusive family than I had ever been. If I were to believe them, I was crazy still and again. That pattern had begun in the very early years of my life. And it would continue until last Thursday.
I’ve lost most of my family now. Divorced more than once. I’m estranged from most of my remaining family and many well-meaning friends. I am not easy to get along with. Most perfectionists aren’t, especially the ones wallowing in the shame of unexpressed creativity.
My father was not a good man. He was funny. Creative, charming. He was brilliant but uneducated, gay in a time and culture where it was never to be revealed, or even remotely tolerated. Permission was not granted him. And he was enormously gifted as a musician. He was also married at nineteen and had 5 children by the age of 29. He would enter the family business whether he liked it or not. All of his rage would come out sideways. It always does. Of his 5 children I have fared the best, with the least damage. I am the eldest by more than 3 years, first grandchild on both sides. Not only was I adored as a young tot, but my parents addictions were not yet in full swing. The dream was still intact.
The opposite of perfect is not flawed. The opposite of perfect is free. This is not a story about what could have been. It is a report about what is becoming. A PSA of sorts, a heads up. It is a story of endless curiosity and hope and never ending love. It’s my story. Maybe some part of it is also yours. I say we tell it, no matter how long it has taken us to get here.
My dear fiend has been ill. I texted her yesterday and she responded to tell me she was in the ER. It’s that horrible parasitic yuk going around western Michigan right now. Kinda scary. She called me back later once she was home and feeling better, after a few hours on a gurney with IV fluids. And sick as she was, she still managed to be her usual gracious self. I admire her so for that. I am not that, especially when I am sick. Or stressed, which has been much too often lately.
She always seems to have a gift for me. Yesterday it was a great big juicy gift. Infinitely useful. I told her I was losing my wits, and she assured me I will be okay. Told me I have “hippie wits.” “What?” Did she just make that up? Yes, yes she did. How wonderful. I will always have my wits about me now; I can keep those. I’m not crazy. I’m just a hippie. Which is to say that I have solid values. Trustworthy values.
And then, just coincidently (if you believe in those) Terry Tempest Williams shows up in my feed. Talkin’ about how we – women of a certain age – have been culturally programmed to think we are crazy. Witless. For most of my life it was the most powerful word used against me as a gaslighting technique. No…no no no no…anything but crazy. Crazy people are unacceptable. Weird. Never okay. Unloveable. Broken.
But it turns out that not only are we not crazy, we are fabulous. Smart. Creative. Genius. And spectacularly alive. We are good, we are beautiful, and we are true. We are very certainly sane and we are transforming an insane world. It turns out we are the holy ordinary. Albeit, unemployable.
“Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage.” – Rilke
7/11, 7:38 am.
Just once. Maybe that’s all it takes. I was at my recent workplace taking a break. Sitting in a back room, I opened the book I had been reading to the next chapter, The Magic in the Mundane. I would finish those twelve pages and pack up my things, say my goodbye as graciously as possible and leave. Sure, I’d been thinking about it, but I hadn’t realized that today would be my last day until I read about it just then. Elissa Altman was speaking to me, and I happened to be listening.
This week I will be making a series of posts here that include some longer videos. Because healing. Maybe healing requires longer videos. I can promise you one thing this week – there is a consistent theme. I am a consistent theme these days: no matter your age, there is no time to waste. Forgive me my sudden sense of urgency. It might be my age, or maybe my rebellious nature. What a good friend calls my hippie wits. I don’t care. I fucking love my hippie wits. I’m no longer explaining myself or dissecting my psyche. My reality no longer requires justification nor explanation – and neither does yours. I am giving us permission. We are a lot of things, crazy is not among them. That’s tomorrow’s conversation, however. Today we visit with Anne Lamott and Elissa Altman. Because healing.
And healing means that I am no longer treating my grief as a pathology. Grief, fear, shame..whatever. Let’s build an altar for all the angels and demons. Let’s honor it all. And then let’s burn that candle and go live.
7/11, 6:36 am. Life gets very real after 70. You can fool yourself and others throughout your sixties that you are still “middle-aged,” especially if you are blessed with looking a bit younger. I see people doing this all the time these days on social media. But you can’t get away with thinking you are middle-aged in your seventies. And tbh, there isn’t a descriptive word for old that I like. The word elderly makes me cringe. I don’t think I’ll ever be – or identify – as elderly…we’ll see. Maybe in my 80’s. Maybe I’ll revisit that word then. But I don’t feel old. We need a new word for people who are over 70 and fabulous.
I don’t know about you, but I am living my best life. I’m just getting around to it. It’s been a long haul, but from here on out I intend to rock this as long as it lasts. Starting now. As I said, it’s been a long haul – which is to say, those tired old demons of self-doubt have not yet given up the ghost. They’re still chasing. One of the most beautiful advantages of age is perspective and insight: those doubts become more transparent than ever. Seeing FEAR for what it is: False Evidence Appearing Real, becomes habit. FU fear. Or as my Mother would have said, move along smartly. Ain’t nobody got time for you here.
I just quit my job. I guess you could say I re-retired. It wasn’t an actual job; it was some work I had taken on out of fear. Fear of being poor to be exact. But it wasn’t working on several levels. So I gave myself permission to leave without feeling guilty, like I had let someone down or somehow failed. Maybe I’d feel differently if I were making some big cash, but that was not the case. So it was keeping me from doing my real work – which is right here on the page, with you. Because this is where the healing happens, and I want healing more than ever.
The real work is being. As in myself. All this psychobabble about authenticity is getting on my nerves. Who has time for nerves after 70? Not me. I must say however, we have such expanded language for this phase of life. Expansion I only wish my mother and my grandmothers could have known. And so I will honor them by not squandering this time and this awareness.
My dreams have been screaming at me. Wake up! Stop lollygagging. Write. Draw. Paint. Tell stories. Give yourself permission. Give yourself permission. I’m going to be saying that repeatedly for awhile. And reminding myself and you: there are no coincidences. There is no lapse in time. There is only now. There is only me and only you.
“The universe is a process and it’s method is change.” – Germaine Greer
Who knows how long ago now – decades – my Mother said something that stuck with me. She told me that you don’t have to like someone to love them. Seems simple…like, duh, when I say it now. But it profoundly changed my relationships as a young woman. It gave me so much freedom. I loved my family; I still do – although only a few of us are still here, and we are almost strangers. But I don’t like them. I don’t think I ever did. And I don’t think they liked me.
Among her many wise comments, thrown casually off the cuff in conversations, my Mother also said to me one day, “I know for a fact that all five of my children have the same two parents – and I cannot understand how they can all be so different.” Listen up, Gabor Mate.
We are so different. In our values, in our beliefs, in our view of the world. Learning styles. Lifestyle preferences – everything from sexual orientation to religion to politics to food preferences – in most every way. We even remember the same shared events entirely differently. My parents were married for 27 years; they raised we five children together. Same house, same schools, many of the same teachers. Same neighbors, same family friends. We vacationed together with the same families every summer. Five children. Five entirely different childhoods.
We have very little in common. We are not a lot alike. We look alike. I look so strikingly like my paternal grandmother that I was once stopped on Front Street in downtown Traverse City years ago by a complete stranger who asked if I were related to her. She had long been deceased, and her old friend thought she was seeing a ghost. I have dozens of living relatives in the area but I have never met most of them. To be honest, I don’t know that I would ever want to meet them…can you imagine how different we might be?!
So to say that I have always felt an outsider is a gross understatement. I was, in fact, an outsider in my own world in every way. The only unconditional love I ever felt was from my mother and her mother. I’ll take it. In fact it has been the only – even slight – sense of acceptance I have ever felt, with the exception of my son and less than a handful of close friends over the years. Now, before this registers as sad, let me say that it is a tremendous blessing. I’ve only come to see that as an adult, and increasingly so the past few decades, but it most certainly has always served me well. I do like myself as well as love myself.
I don’t think my parents or siblings ever knew that perspective, or ever will. I think they have spent their lives in self loathing. That isn’t a question any of them would ever think to ask themselves. Not only are they uninterested in any self reflection, but they would object if presented with the idea. Either they are narcissistic, and obviously superior to you for posing such a vapid concept…or, it couldn’t possibly matter less – as long as they have accepted Jesus as their savior. Either way, no need for such silliness. No self examination going on here, thank you very much.
I say that as someone who knows self loathing well. And where it will take you. I say that with the compassion that fills every cell of my being for all time. Nothing – absolutely nothing but humility and respect for the overwhelmingly daunting task of learning to love yourself. Really. Not admiring yourself. I don’t admire myself. I’m not proud. I’m humbled and consumed with gratitude. My life is so, so easy compared to theirs.
It brings me around to this idea of deservedness. We all deserve some happiness. We all deserve peace. Wellbeing. Every sentient life on earth deserves that. It is our nature. It is what the planet is for. But the man-made – quite frankly – cultural teaching of deservedness? Well, that, my friends, is quite the sham. A bill of goods. The founding fathers of the U.S. were very intelligent men. They got a whole helluva lot of it wrong. Just dead wrong. And I am their direct descendent, so perhaps I am uniquely qualified in some way to say this: I would very much like to start this experiment over.
Let’s start with giving the land back to the people it belonged to in the first place, before we “discovered” it. And then – radical notion it seems – let’s see if there is anything we might learn from them. I mean, before we barged in and slaughtered them. Oops.
Here’s an experiment for you – let’s put the descendants of the slaves in power for awhile. You think they’d do worse? I think we whiteys would be damn lucky if they didn’t enslave and slaughter all of us. You want to talk about deserving?! Try that scenario on. Do you think we would deserve forgiveness? Because I don’t. That does not mean that I identify with guilt, because I don’t. That isn’t denial. I forgave myself – I gave my self forth. I changed. It was not easy; in fact I had to sacrifice everything. Every belief – just for starters. Everything I thought was safety. I saw through it. And I wanted real safety – the only safety worth having – the safety of defenselessness. The minute you perceive a need to defend you are not free. You are not safe. That is only one of the reasons you will never see me at a protest march (not because I’ve had an FBI file since 1968 for such things) – what you resist persists. That’s not an Oprah Winfrey euphemism. It’s over simplified truth.
Pardon me if my radical self is showing. I’ll tell you what we all deserve, big time. And NOW. We deserve rest. We deserve peace.
In a recent phone conversation my friend and I were talking about how different the world was when we were growing up. Ya’ know, like the memes. Land lines instead of cell phones, etc…and I remembered getting a letter from the DAR before my 18th birthday. They were courting me. And I had no idea who they really were or what they practiced. There was no internet! I went to the library. Spoke to the librarian – in a respectful manner, because respect. If I remember correctly I also contacted The Detroit News asking for articles to read about them. And drove downtown to pick them up, because no internet. I had to do my homework before I decided hell to the no.
My Mother was disappointed. She did so want to belong. And after all, I had already refused a coming out party at the yacht club. I didn’t attend prom. I just didn’t seem to want to fit in. I was a disappointment. But at a deeper level, she got it. This was the woman who gave me two books for my birthday that year (my father gave me a car): The Female Eunuch by Germaine Greer, and The Feminine Mystique by Betty Friedan. She wasn’t getting free, but maybe her daughter had a fighting chance. And the television was our downfall, America….hahhahaaaa….and in case you think I might lose any of my radical nature in my old age? Nah, I love AI. Bring it on. The human race needs a smarter ruler. We can only hope it gets so smart that it becomes sentient by next week.
4:10 PM; Saturday, June 27th. I’ve just awakened from a much needed nap. A couple of hours ago I took Tylenol and magnesium tincture and laid down with my feet elevated. I’m sore. I’ve been pushing all week to catch up on the yard work, which I’m about a month behind on. It’s daunting, much like the snow in winter. It needs to be tackled almost daily to stay on top of it.
I’ve divided my lawn into 5 sections. Each section is approximately the size of your yard if you’re a normal person. Which is to say, if you live in a town or suburb where you have a front yard that extends out about 20 feet to the street, and a back yard that extends out to meet your neighbor’s fence. This is not that.
This property is almost an acre – and it is the smallest property in this rural area. Three sides of it is on a 30 to 45 degree angle – all lawn. Who thought that was a good idea?! I always thought I would plant the hillsides with ground cover. Or lavender. The budget has never existed for that.
So, I can only mow one section of my yard on any given day due to the fact that I am old and decrepit. And trimming along the fence and the flower beds with the string trimmer is another day for each section. So 10 days to catch up. I’m six days in and if I live another 4 days I will keep you posted.
Meanwhile, back at the ranch (this is a mid-century modern ranch), I’m thinking it may be time to move to something more easily maintained. Maybe I’ve got one more move in me. I’ll also keep you posted about this process. I am one of the many aging seniors who are house rich and cash poor. I don’t know if I can afford to move. I do know that I can no longer afford to pay a lawn service. Hence, the new diet and exercise program: eat less and mow more. Because, if you know me at all, I am the kinda gal who willfully turns adversity into advantage. Go team.
At this moment in time, I am tentatively beginning to love my life again. It was a long, dark winter. It was, quite literally, a dark and stormy night. It just happened to last six months. But sunlight and warmth and nature are true healers, and today I sit here looking out over the rolling hills and treetops through dappled sunlight and feel like I won the lottery. I feel like I can breathe again.
I miss my dogs, who I originally bought this house for. I miss the friends I’ve lost. I miss my family. I miss my cat. I’ve begun to consider that I might adopt again. I miss the joy they fill the house with. Maybe I could open my heart once more. I also miss all the many lives I’ve already lived in this lifetime. I’m not the same person anymore. But here’s the thing about unhappiness: after a while it stops being interesting.
The souvenir heart says, “It’s never too late to fly.” These days life feels like I am less of a blackbird, however, and more of a Phoenix. Rising from the ashes of burnt bridges. Many, many burnt bridges. I look back over my life and think I must have flown – or run swiftly – over those bridges and took one last, gigantic leap at the end of every naive effort. Don’t look back now. Somehow I landed on my feet again and again and again.
Let’s face it, I had a lot of support. Was it despite my arrogance or because of my determination? Best not ask. We all have our noble indignities. We still believe we can best this process of constant change, of the body’s disintegration. We will outrun it as long as we can. What choice have we as we age? Every morning I say “Thank you” before my feet hit the floor. I stand before I walk, make sure both feet are firmly under me. I am aware of my surroundings before I move forward. I don’t take anything for granted anymore, not even my uprightness.
As many of you will know, I have always had a strong affinity to birds. They show up to me and for me. Years ago driving home from work, I came around a curve and had to brake suddenly for an eagle in the road. Standing in the middle of my lane, looking up at me – perhaps first in fright, but once I had come to a full stop it just stood there. Neither of us moved an iota. It was a back country lane and traffic was unlikely, so I closed my eyes and told it that it was safe now. I would wait with it. I also knew the local rapture rescue to call for emergency help if needed. It stared in at me for a few minutes, then turned in the direction I was headed and took flight, bidding me to follow. Had it just needed a moment? Or did it come to delay me on my way so that I might proceed safely? I certainly proceeded more wide awake.
You might all be tired of hearing me go on about how I’ve been grieving. It has been deeper and lasted longer than I have ever known, and at almost 73 years old, I’m not sure it will ever let go. I won’t ever be the same, that’s for sure. Sitting at my kitchen table Tuesday I was missing my cat. So I spoke to him.Yes, out loud. I told him that I’ve been thinking about moving. “What would you think? I’d have to leave your bones buried out back on the hill.” “I’m not using them.” Hahahaaa…at least he didn’t say “idiot.” At that exact second a hummingbird flew at high speed – right up to the window in front of my face. Like it had been dispatched and told to hurry! I actually jumped up, it came so fast out of nowhere. It stopped an inch from smacking into the window and hovered, looking in at me.
So I Googled “hummingbird spiritual meaning.” “Hummingbirds symbolize joy, resilience, and the sweetness of life. Because they can hover, fly backward, and move with agile precision, they are symbols of emotional healing after periods of grief or stress.” The cat was telling me to move on.
All your life…you were only waiting for this moment to be free.
Monday, 6/15: Good morning. I’m gonna change up the format here a bit. Since it’s basically always been a journal, let’s go with a journal format, beginning with the date…but all bets are off. Consistency is not a virtue I claim. I aspire. I’m…ya’ know, aspirational. It is a gorgeous summer morning. It is sunny and cool. Fifty-three degrees. It reminds me why we live in Michigan. But Michigan is not for everyone…it’s an “if you know, you know” kinda thing.
Detroit is the same. What an absolutely magnificent city. But if you know, you know. As a young woman I couldn’t wait to leave, but it was never because I didn’t love Detroit. It was because I wanted to live away from my highly dysfunctional family. Well, I wanted to raise my son away from them. And while I am very happy to be living “up north,” I will always miss Detroit. You can take the girl out of the city…
Growing up in Detroit was one of those “right place, right time” things. Born in the early 50’s, I became a teen in the 60’s. Detroit was the U.S. center of the British Invasion of rock in the 1960’s. And I was there for it. I was a sponge for it. I was growing up in a musical family, and as I’ve often said, my parents were beatniks in the 50’s who became hippies in the 60’s. I was the flower child.
I’ve also talked here a lot about being a privileged white girl in Detroit in the 1960’s. And having a conscience, thankyougod. Let’s just say, it shaped me. It would not make my life easier. Naive and 13, we were on one of our many summer getaways with our big-ass Chris Craft cabin cruiser to Georgian Bay, Canada. If you know, you know. It is one of the most spectacular places on the planet. We would use the depth sounder to check how deep the water was at our mooring, often off the beach of some deserted little island. We would watch the fish swimming thirty feet below us as we scooped up a pitcher of water to make orange juice or coffee. We had somehow stumbled into heaven, never suspecting we might not be worthy.
Bored in Tobermory harbor one stormy afternoon my younger sister and I walked into town, where I bought my first-ever record album. Not only did Joni Mitchell sing like no one I’d ever heard, but she had also drawn the jacket cover. Song to a Seagull caught my eye because it looked a lot like my fantastical drawings. Little did I know my life would never be the same.
Fast forward (hahahaa!) another six decades and here we are, you and I…talkin’ trash and livin’ our best life. Have I mentioned how grateful I am? I would try to articulate this sentiment, but then I would turn to a mush puddle and not be able to type through the tears. That’s me these days. Hence, the month-long hiatus since my last post.
Life continues to unfold and reveal it’s many complex layers. I can barely keep up. Is this progress? Who TF knows…it feels like a loop. A loop of grief and addiction with brief glimpses of joy. Is that joy? Would I recognize joy if it bit me?! Today I sit here in dappled sunlight looking out through the trees in a state of absolute delight and possibility. Yesterday I was sick and in a state of dread. Did I mention that consistency and I are not natural companions?
I had big plans for yesterday. A long ta-da list. But I woke with a migraine. Nauseous. Stiff joints and sore muscles. Where did this come from? I had been working outdoors in the garden the previous day, and I had been stung. It could just as easily have been caused by something I ate that day. The raspberries I put on my yogurt were just beginning to mold but I couldn’t stand to lose them. I live on that edge between blissful wellness and painful incapacity. It’s called chronic illness for a reason. So yesterday was a lost day. I sipped electrolytes, ate tiny bites of dry sourdough toast and stayed in my dark, cool bedroom.
But these days I have a job. I hate having a job. Oh, I love my work. It’s the schedule I resent. Having to be up and out of the house (preferably dressed) and then drive 40 minutes to get anywhere. Regardless of how I feel. Take Sumatriptan if necessary, but show up. Because consistency counts. I was loving retirement. I will again. Life threw another curve ball that I was ill prepared for, and now I face a new challenge: find a new way to earn income. So you’re 72?! Buckle up, buttercup. You live in Michigan, and Michigan is part of the good ol’ USofA….
Honestly, this is very likely good for me, being forced to get dressed and leave the house on a schedule. With the inconsistency of ADHD, and it’s sister component lack of discipline, a little imposed structure usually serves me well. It stimulates creativity and I am forced to overcome my preference to hide; forced to engage with others. As in people. Ugh. Present company excepted.
During this past month, I’ve been overwhelmed with grief and…well, despair – for lack of a better word. I guess I must admit despair. It has been a long 6 months of winter filled with grief. I am depressed. Getting out and driving through gorgeous countryside will do me good. I have reconnected with a dear old friend, who gave me work immediately without question when I called for help. And I’ve also met some very nice people. I certainly cannot complain. How fortunate I am when I get out of my own way. Honestly, are we all our own worst enemies?
I’m beginning to engage with life again. One new rabbit hole I’d love to share here is a vlog I’ve recently discovered on YouTube. I love YouTube…so way better than television. Apparently so does everyone else. In fact, in her first year on YT, Angie has rapidly grown to be one of the most popular channels. There are reasons obvious to me, but I will let you see for yourself.
Confession: I found this vlog because I am researching lifestyle channels, thinking about starting one myself. Sort of a live-action adjunct to this blog. There are aspects of Angie’s vlog I would copy – like wearing sunglasses indoors, of course. And her vulnerability, which I would much rather disguise – but what are the chances?! However, mine would also be quite different. For starters, I’m 12 years older. And far snarkier. Hard as I might try, I am not British. My vlog would have to include my metaphysical studies and spiritual experiences to be authentic. We all know I’ve never had a humble opinion in my life. But there are many things I admire about Angie, not the least of which is her consistency. I could learn something.
I have a long list of ideas…I would love your ideas. Let’s share our curiosity, in hopes that you and I can continue this conversation about life and loss and hope and inconsistency and beauty and all things human. Thank you for being here.
So here is my offering for today: Rare Birds, for those of us growing older, expanding rather than shrinking. For real people, highly sensitive people, who take life as it comes with all it’s foibles and inconsistencies. People like us, who keep on keeping on. Meanwhile, I’m off to my local hardware store to buy myself a garden fork…I hope Angie would be proud.